You’re not crazy and it’s OK to cry.

There are many things that can cause a feeling of overwhelm, anger, stress, fear, or significant loss. When our blood sugar drops, we go into our reptilian brain which is the fight or flight response.  We jokingly call it “hangry” but if you know a diabetic or are one, you can see the response on a larger scale. 

We also live with a beautiful concoction of hormones, both men and women that drastically affect our mood. Certain foods can make us estrogen high and as we begin to lose testosterone, estrogen and progesterone as we age our body is suffering that loss.  Which is how we lose muscle mass and experience hair loss, memory fog, exhaustion and insomnia.   The loss of estrogen causes irregularity in body temperature like hot flashes, or night sweats, and as we lose progesterone sleep becomes a challenge, because progesterone tells us to go to sleep.  Testosterone gives us mental clarity, energy and muscle mass.  

There are also anchors from our childhood when people use a certain tone, body posture, language dialect, or perhaps a scenario, like taking credit for someone else’s work, or being condescending or lying when they know you know the truth.  There are situations that caused trauma as a child hat now are blown out of proportion in our adulthood.  Some people don’t have the best of intentions or are just self sorted in the way they view the world, that’s true.  However, as a safe secure adult we shouldn’t respond in a way that is blown out of proportion by their behavior. When we are, that means it’s a trigger from the past. This doesn’t mean that that persons behavior is acceptable. It just means that it shouldn’t matter so much to us that we are emotionally compromised. 

If you’re eating a lot of berries, soy beans, dried fruit, nuts, beer or wine and you find yourself crying a lot back away from the estrogen inducing foods.  If you are irritable or frustrated check to see if you have eaten responsibly.  Before you decide what your truth is check in with how you’re treating yourself. A healthy, regular exercise routine, lots of oxygen by increasing your heart rate and keeping it up for a time, drinking lots of water, so that your body can filter all of its systems accurately, healthy fruits and vegetables, lean clean meats, poultry and fish is a good start. 

What you do with your body has a significant amount to do with your mood. You’re OK the past is the past now it’s time to focus on your future. Remember that any narratives you have running in your head are made up by you and could be wrong. When you level with yourself and the future you want test it to be sure it’s YOUR wants and needs rather than other peoples expectations or competing with someone.  

If you have a fear about what someone else is doing or thinking, simply ask what their intentions are with a calm curious attitude and tone. If their response is immediate anger, remember that guilty people get angry and blame, people who are afraid of being abandoned, pay for things, and give things or sacrifice themselves. People who are afraid of looking stupid tend to leave decisions up to other people and over analyze the situation instead of taking action and then there are those who just keep finding other things that are more important so they can distract from the point. 

So, if you believe somebody doesn’t really love you, somebody’s angry with you, that someone has bad intentions, or any other intense relationship fear; simply level with